Finding a confidante, someone you are comfortable with enough to begin sharing what is really going on for you, can be daunting, but is probably one of the most valuable things we can do for ourselves.

So here is a little bit of info about me I would like to share with you from my heart to help you get more of a felt sense of me and if you might like to explore working together.

I would say I was born with a reasonable dose of existential angst. That is…Life!? Ah ha…what is the point?! 

I know…I feel a bit cringey saying it but it’s just true and it’s often been a big job shaking it or mostly learning more about it - which has meant life has to be going pretty darn well for me to be enjoying it! (It has also helped me to get my life going pretty darn well at different stages ; ) )

As a consequence I have pretty strong tendencies towards anxiety and depression. I also happened to find a powerful model (Process Oriented Psychology or Process Work) early in my adult life that supported me deeply to learn and understand more about this inner territory and how to navigate through it. 

I am deeply grateful to Process Work, its lineage (Jungian), and the outstanding teachers this journey provided - it and they spoke consistently to what I most needed at a soul and heart level for the first 20 years of my adult life. 

As a result I have long lived experience of dealing with deep and difficult moods, layers of anxiety, and a deep ambivalence towards life, and have simultaneously been extraordinarily lucky enough to find a community and teachers to support and help me learn and develop at a deep granular level with it.

After about 25 years this journey felt complete and it was time to step away. It was like leaving home again and beset with new waves of self-doubt…I could also translate these as opportunities to rely and apply my tools at my own discernment and discretion and bear the consequences if I didn't! 

10 years on now, I feel like I have some resilience and dexterity I'm quite proud of and keen to share!

Also, along the way, on this 35 year journey of adulthood, I have had: several long-term relationships; co-parented 3 children; had an initial career in Traditional Chinese Medicine then Psychology and Psychotherapy - teaching along the way; studied Aikido; developed a deep affinity and respect for nature; and traveled to different cultures and countries.

For several years I worked as a counsellor for people dying and bereaved. For my own part I wanted to be palpably close to death, facing this reality in order to challenge my own life ambivalence. It was an incredible time to be with people but I can honestly say it wasn’t until my own experience of mortality through a major heart attack in 2022 I had my ‘Carpe Diem’ - Seize the Day, or deeper embodied awakening to: ‘This is my life!’ moment which has stayed with me.

With this has come more of a sense of responsibility to burn brightly to the ones I have connection with and embrace the ever-unfolding mystery of life.